marriage.

so. tanner and i have been married for almost 4 years.

we've been lucky.

we don't fight, like ever.

except like once a year.

 & even then it isn't really a fight..

we don't yell or scream.

we talk calmly about how we are feeling.

like i said i'm lucky.

tanner and i are very respectful of one another and our opinions.

if we disagree on some political issue or other we at least say ok i can see where you are coming from, but i don't agree and thats totally ok.

other times it is a "babe you really hurt me by doing blah blah blah" discussions.

we had one of those on saturday night.

i won't go into details.

but i will say i love that we can talk and talk and talk until we both feel better.

 tanner is still getting used to the person i have become in the past few months.

if he was going to a friends house and wanted me to meet him there i would have absolutely said no... six months ago. 

i'm still getting used to who i am!

i used to shut down when i got hurt, rather than talk about it i would cry myself to sleep and be mad the whole next day because he didn't pick up on me being upset.

ugh. that wasn't fun.

i finally figured out... hey genius he isn't a mind reader! if you don't tell him how you feel it won't ever change. sheesh. easy right? well i didn't figure that out right away. sometimes it is harder than you expect, but easier in the long run.

being married is so amazing... and so different.

i love being able to grow and pursue my dreams.

i know tanner will always have my back and push me to what makes me happy.

i love that our goals are the same on the important things.

i love who we make each other.

i love that we can talk.

we have great communication. 

really i think that is what makes a marriage so great.

he is absolutely my best friend, i can tell him everything and anything...

and he will still be there in the morning.

a few of you know what is happening in our personal life with the gym and not being able to spend time together, and finances. ya know the usual grown up stuff..

i didn't realize how much we take out on each other. and thats soooo not fair.

anyways... my point is always be open and honest with your husband or wife.

realize that what stresses you out, stresses them out too.

know that you need to lift them up and trust that everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

don't keep saying one day or someday...

someday is now.

that is all we have.

appreciate every single moment in the moment with your love.

that is all for now... 

xo.

morgan.

oh p.s tanner isn't sticking to his new years resolution. ;)